When it comes to flirting or establishing a relationship, we are all different. Nevertheless, we can classify in 12 large groups the types of boyfriendsThe aim is to identify them in time and take the necessary measures to ensure that everything flows positively. Or, to know when it is enough and to know how to end the relationship before the problems grow.
Personality, beliefs, the way you think women should be treated. All these factors determine what kind of boyfriend a man becomes. Although it is also true that some negative things can change with communication and will.
The 12 types of boyfriends (discover what your ideal boy is like)
In the first few days or weeks you can find out what kind of boyfriend any man is. There are attitudes and behaviors that make it easy to see what your style of relating is.. It is important to be observant, and to detect if there are any toxic traits to avoid.
Ideal relationships are not found, they are built. And one way to start building something healthy and stable is to get to know each other without blindfolds, and encourage communication and then see if you’re willing to make changes for the benefit of the relationship.
1. The jealous
One kind of boyfriend you have to be careful with is the jealous one.. It is common that at the beginning of the relationship his jealousy is subtle and he disguises it as flattery. Sometimes jealousy seems “romantic” and this detail is overlooked, and sometimes it is thought to be somewhat harmless.
Comments like “you’re so pretty that I don’t want anyone else to look at you” or “I can’t believe you’d rather be with me and I’m afraid to lose you” can be his favorite phrases that at first seem nice, but watch out, over time they can become a real problem.
2. The retailer
There are detailed boyfriends who seem like a real dream.. Most women like details. A little detail for some special celebration, or just for the pleasure of doing it, is something we all like, flatters us and makes us feel wanted.
The retailer knows it very well and takes advantage of this quality of his to conquer. There is nothing wrong with this, just be careful that these details are not “generic” and that they show a genuine interest in your tastes and hobbies and not that they turn out to be gifts that may not even have anything to do with you.
3. The free and wild
The kind of free, wild boyfriend is the dream of many women.. This stereotype of the man on a motorcycle living adventures and with a great sex appeal… we understand each other, right? No doubt many have wanted to have him as their boyfriend, and although it can be exciting, it has its drawbacks.
This kind of boyfriend usually doesn’t want compromises. Its attraction lies precisely in its free soul, and it is not easy to bind it. Even if you think you may be the one chosen to change her life, keep in mind that without that freedom she may no longer be the kind of boyfriend you were looking for.
4. The sticker
This sitcker boyfriend will be stuck with you everywhere.. Some people think this is nice. They think it’s a sign that he’s so comfortable with you, that now he prefers to go everywhere like your shadow.
Maybe at first it’s normal because in the excitement of the first moments, they don’t want to take off. Care should only be taken if this is not really a symptom of codependence which can undoubtedly lead to later problems.
5. The liar
The lying boyfriend guy is definitely a complicated person.. Maybe you notice little “innocent” lies at the beginning of the relationship or during the flirting phase. You have to be careful, even if they are lies that seem not to affect can become something more serious.
It’s common to say things like “I didn’t want to worry you, that’s why I didn’t tell you” or “it’s not important” or maybe it’s justified by saying “I’m not lying to you, I’m just hiding information from you”. And while it is true that we all have the right to keep our secrets, be alert if you are not actually hiding something you should know, or if telling lies becomes a habit detrimental to your communication and mutual trust.
6. The diplomat
The diplomatic boyfriend is usually well liked by all your friends and family.. They have the ability to relate well and in their interest to “look good” to you, they are kind and friendly to everyone in your environment.
This is very nice, and there are those who have this quality very well developed. However, you have to be careful that later on this does not become against you, when faced with a problem between you, your family supports him and not you. In addition, very diplomatic people may be attractive at first, but if their way of being is impostor and artificial, in the long run you may have some friction.
7. The open-minded one
An open-minded boyfriend can be a great ally and companion.. He’s not prejudiced and he’s willing to learn new things and listen to you. It also comes loaded with innovative and risky ideas that can be very exciting.
However, your ideas may be somewhat extreme. Maybe you don’t agree with him and by not arguing, you end up agreeing. For example, he might tell you that fidelity doesn’t exist and that he prefers an open relationship even if you’re not convinced of it. This will not be right, there must always be common agreement and respect in all decisions, and they must be taken only if both of you are convinced that it is the best.
8. The shy one
A shy boyfriend may be cute, but sometimes he can make you despair.. Some shyness in a man may come to like, but when this prevents him from moving forward and you have to always be the one to take the initiative, it stops being nice to be a little tedious.
His nature is insecure, he has a hard time taking his first steps. This can become a real problem for the future, but also after a while, you can already feel in complete confidence with you and this attitude will be behind you. It’s up to you to find out and be patient, or not.
9. The aggressive
Certainly a kind of boyfriend to be careful of.. Although at first it is rare for him to show his aggressiveness towards you, there may be situations that allow you to see this trait in his personality. You may get angry easily with other people, for example when driving or if someone treats you badly in a restaurant.
At first it can be justified with you and you may think that it is not bad to “know how to defend”, but certainly is a trait that must be walked with care, because that violent personality may also appear at some point towards you, after a time of being together.
10. The Friendly
There’s a kind of boyfriend who’s very friendly.. This is not a problem, however there are some women who do not like their boyfriends to have a very active social life, especially if it includes friends. These guys are sociable and get along with everybody. They like to party and interact with as many people as possible.
It’s common for them to want to include you in their circle of friends. This is a positive thing and far from trying to prohibit you from going out with them, perhaps the best thing is to get close and get to know them. You don’t have to feel bad either if you have a lot of friends, this can mean that you have a good way of relating to everyone.
11. The depressive
Another type of boyfriend is the depressive. He carries a melancholy on his back and tends to be victimized by everything. At first this is not so evident, because he disguises his pessimistic attitude with the joy of seeing you and having you in his life. This certainly makes many women feel good, and they don’t realize the grim personality behind it.
They are usually people who feel themselves continually immersed in failure. They don’t find their way and think it’s all someone else’s fault. When they start going out with someone, they feel an impulse of optimism and energy, but after a while, it disappears.
12. The male chauvinist
The kind of macho boyfriend you should definitely run from.. Believe it or not, there are still many men out there believing that women must fulfill certain roles and characteristics to deserve their love.
Even if they don’t tell you anything explicit at first, they start with comments about how you dress, how you behave, and some habits of yours that they consider “inappropriate” such as smoking or drinking alcohol. There’s not much to say. There’s no remedy here, it’s better to run away.
Bibliographic references
- Fromm, Eric. (1956). “The Art of Loving, Harper Perennial. Original English Version.
- Triglia, Adrián; Regader, Bertrand; García-Allen, Jonathan. (2016). Psychologically speaking. Editorial Paidós.